Joshua Goldman
Joshua Goldman
min read · July 27, 2025 · Entertainment

Why Sophie Chose Not to Attend Princess Diana's Funeral: A Royal Secret Revealed

A royal author has revealed the 'caring and thoughtful' reason that Sophie decided not to attend Princess Diana's funeral

The Royal Rivalry: Sophie's Secret Reasons for Skipping Diana's Funeral Revealed

In a shocking exposé, a royal insider has lifted the lid on the "caring and thoughtful" reason why Sophie, now the Duchess of Edinburgh, chose not to attend Princess Diana's funeral in 1997. The news is set to send shockwaves through the monarchy, revealing a complex web of relationships, rivalries, and hurt feelings that have been simmering beneath the surface for decades.

As billions of mourners watched the proceedings at Westminster Abbey, Sophie was noticeably absent from the gathering of royalty, including her then-boyfriend Prince Edward, who had been dating her since 1993. But far from being a snub or an oversight, Sophie's decision to stay away was motivated by a desire to spare the grieving crowds from her uncanny resemblance to the late Princess Diana.

Diana at a gala reception in the late 90s. The princess tragically died in a Paris car crash in 1997

According to Sean Smith's new biography on Sophie, the Duchess of Edinburgh deliberately chose not to attend the funeral due to concerns that she would be too upset for the crowd. As a blonde with a short bob hairstyle, similar to Diana's signature look, Sophie feared being mistaken for the People's Princess from afar. This was no trivial matter, given the widespread comparisons between the two women at the time.

"Everyone used to say they looked like twins," says Smith. "It was as if they were separated at birth." In fact, Sophie had been criticized in the past for copying Diana's style, with royal commentator Judy Wade famously declaring that Sophie should "get her own look."

But it wasn't just a matter of fashion; there was also a deep-seated rivalry between the two women. According to Smith, Diana would often mock Sophie by calling her "my double" or "Miss Goody Two-Shoes." The tension between them was palpable, with mutual friends describing their relationship as having "no love lost."

Diana's coffin enters Westminster Abbey surrounded by floral tributes. Inside the church William and Harry were joined by their father, the then Prince Charles , their grandmother Queen Elizabeth II and most of the other senior royals.

One particular incident at Windsor Castle stands out, where Sophie reportedly had an innocuous afternoon tea with the Queen and Diana, accompanied by William and Harry. However, every time Sophie tried to speak, Diana would interrupt her, forcing her to remain silent.

Sophie's patience eventually wore thin, and she stormed off in a huff after obtaining the Queen's permission to leave. The incident left her "seething with rage" and marked a turning point in their complicated relationship.

Despite the challenges, Sophie has managed to carve out her own unique role within the monarchy, becoming the Queen's "favourite daughter-in-law." She was also a pillar of support for the Queen following the death of Prince Philip in 2021, and later paid tribute to the monarch after her passing, describing it as leaving an "unimaginable void in all our lives."

Princess Diana at a Gala Dinner in 1990

Sophie has been a steady presence throughout the family's ups and downs, advocating on issues such as sexual violence and sight loss awareness. Her passion for promoting eye health stems from her daughter, who was born prematurely and developed esotropia - a condition that causes one or both eyes to turn inwards.

As the monarchy continues to navigate its fair share of scandals, feuds, and family drama, Sophie's story is a timely reminder of the complex web of relationships and rivalries within the royal family. With her dedication to her charitable work and her unwavering support for her loved ones, Sophie has proven herself to be a force to be reckoned with.

The Duchess of Edinburgh: A Woman Ahead of Her Time

Princess Diana in west London in 1997

Sophie's journey from Kent girl to royalty is an inspiring tale of self-discovery and determination. As she navigates the intricacies of royal life, Sophie remains committed to her charitable work and her family. With her trademark warmth and kindness, she has earned a special place in the hearts of many, including the Queen herself.

As we reflect on the complex relationships within the monarchy, it's clear that Sophie's story is one of resilience, compassion, and dedication. Despite the challenges she faced, particularly at the hands of Princess Diana, Sophie has emerged as a strong and capable individual who has made a lasting impact on the royal family.

With her unique blend of style, substance, and warmth, Sophie continues to captivate audiences around the world. Her story is a testament to the power of perseverance and the importance of staying true to oneself, even in the face of adversity.

Diana wearing a pink dress in 1997

Sources:

  • Sean Smith's biography on Sophie, "Sophie"
  • The scholarlynote.com

Billions of mourners watched the proceedings including the deeply sad images of the young Prince Harry and Prince William walking behind their late mother's coffin

Writing in his new biography about the Duchess of Edinburgh 's life - titled Sophie - author Sean Smith has revealed that Sophie chose not to attend the funeral because she thought it would be 'too upsetting for the crowd' due to how remarkably similar her and Diana looked

Diana was aware of how similar she looked to Sophie. Smith claimed that when she saw Sophie approaching Diana would say: 'Oh look , here comes my double' or 'Here comes Miss Goody Two Shoes'

Sophie and Diana clashed personality wise and the Princess of Wales' actions once left Sophie in a 'rage' during a trip to Windsor to see the Queen