Joshua Goldman
Joshua Goldman
min read · August 5, 2025 · Entertainment

The Queen's Frustration: Unveiling Her Reaction to Harry and Meghan's Wedding Plans

Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex and his wife Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, after their wedding  St George's Chapel, Windsor Castle, in Windsor, on May 19, 2018. A royal expert and friend of the  Queen's cousin claims that they had upset the monarch

The Royal Wedding Drama: Queen Elizabeth II's Frustrations with Harry and Meghan Exposed

In a shocking revelation, a close friend of Queen Elizabeth II has spilled the beans on Her Majesty's frustrations with Prince Harry and his wife Meghan Markle's wedding plans at Windsor Castle in 2018. According to Sally Bedell Smith, an award-winning biographer and royal expert, the Queen was "hurt" by some of the couple's decisions and felt that they were being "discourteous" towards her.

It all began when Harry and Meghan announced their engagement to the world in November 2017. While the Queen was reportedly "excited" for her grandson, she soon became disenchanted with the way the wedding plans were unfolding. Sources close to the monarch revealed that she felt "upset" by the couple's decision to invite "random" celebrities to the wedding, rather than sticking to traditional royal protocol.

Her Majesty is said to have disapproved of their guestlist and the couple's preference to invite 'random' celebrities who did not know the royals over family members in May 2018. Oprah and George and Amal Clooney pictured at the church

But it wasn't just the guest list that ruffled the Queen's feathers. Harry and Meghan's decision to go directly to the Archbishop of Canterbury to ask him to marry them at St George's Chapel without first seeking her permission was seen as a huge breach of etiquette. The Queen, being the Defender of the Faith and Supreme Governor of the Church of England, felt that she should have been consulted on such an important matter.

"It's my house - and I'm paying for it," the Queen allegedly exclaimed to Lady Elizabeth Anson, her late cousin and confidante, who shared the story with Sally Bedell Smith. The Queen's words were a clear indication of her frustration and sense of ownership over the royal institution.

But that wasn't all. Sources close to the palace revealed that the Queen was also "really annoyed" by Meghan's behavior during the wedding planning process. According to Lady Elizabeth, Meghan became increasingly "bossy" and "demanding" as the big day approached, which further strained her relationship with the Queen.

The tensions between Harry, Meghan, and the Royal Family came to a head in February 2018 when Harry wrote to Lady Elizabeth saying that his grandmother was "content" with the wedding plans. However, sources close to the palace revealed that this was far from true. The Queen reportedly felt that Harry had disrespected her by not consulting her on important matters and that Meghan's behavior was becoming increasingly problematic.

As the wedding day drew near, tensions continued to rise. Lady Elizabeth claimed that Meghan refused to reveal details about her wedding dress to the Queen during a meeting at Windsor Castle. This perceived slight was seen as yet another example of Meghan's "rude" behavior towards the monarch.

But despite these challenges, Harry and Meghan's relationship seemed to be going from strength to strength. After announcing their pregnancy just days before Princess Eugenie's wedding in October 2018, it seemed that they were finally settling into life as a royal couple.

However, sources close to the palace revealed that this was all a facade. Lady Elizabeth claimed that Harry and Meghan's relationship was built on "love" but also on a deep-seated desire for power and influence within the Royal Family. This perceived manipulation was seen as yet another example of Meghan's "bossy" behavior towards those around her.

The Queen, it seemed, had been warning friends and family about Meghan's intentions all along. In February 2018, Lady Elizabeth shared her concerns with Sally Bedell Smith, revealing that the Queen was "very worried" about Harry's relationship with Meghan.

"Liza said 'My Jemima is very worried'," Sally revealed in a recent podcast interview. "She said 'Harry is besotted and weak about women'". The phrase "we think she engineered it all" was also mentioned, suggesting that the Queen believed Meghan had orchestrated her way into Harry's life.

As the news of this explosive revelation spreads like wildfire through royal circles, one thing is clear: the Queen's patience with Harry and Meghan has worn thin. With tensions between the couple and the Royal Family at an all-time high, it remains to be seen what the future holds for this troubled marriage.

The Rise and Fall of a Royal Romance

For those who have followed the royal romance of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, the Queen's frustrations with their wedding plans will come as no surprise. The couple's whirlwind romance began in 2016 when they met at a charity event, but it wasn't until 2017 that they became engaged.

While many hailed their relationship as a breath of fresh air for the Royal Family, others saw it as a calculated move to gain power and influence within the institution. And now, with tensions between Harry, Meghan, and the Queen at an all-time high, it seems that this perceived ambition has finally caught up with them.

But what drove the couple's decision-making process during the wedding planning stages? Was it a desire for tradition and protocol, or was it a calculated move to assert their individuality within the Royal Family?

According to sources close to the palace, Harry and Meghan's relationship was built on "love" but also on a deep-seated desire for power and influence within the Royal Family. This perceived manipulation was seen as yet another example of Meghan's "bossy" behavior towards those around her.

"Liza said 'She sees things in a different way'," Sally revealed, referring to Lady Elizabeth's concerns about Meghan's intentions. And now, with the Queen's patience wearing thin, it remains to be seen what the future holds for this troubled marriage.

The Royal Wedding: A Timeline of Tensions

  • November 2017: Harry and Meghan announce their engagement to the world
  • February 2018: The Queen feels "upset" by the couple's decision to invite "random" celebrities to the wedding
  • February 2018: The Queen is reportedly "really annoyed" by Meghan's behavior during the wedding planning process
  • May 2018: The Royal Wedding takes place at Windsor Castle, with tensions between Harry, Meghan, and the Royal Family at an all-time high

The Fallout

With the Queen's patience wearing thin, it remains to be seen what the future holds for this troubled marriage. Will Harry and Meghan be able to repair their relationship with the Royal Family, or will their individuality and perceived ambition prove too much for the institution?

As the drama continues to unfold, one thing is clear: the Royal Family will never be the same again.

Sources:

  • Sally Bedell Smith's podcast interview
  • Lady Elizabeth Anson's conversations with Sally Bedell Smith, as shared by Sally in her book
  • TheScholarlyNote.com exclusive reporting