Joshua Goldman
Joshua Goldman
min read · September 19, 2025 · Entertainment

Shocking Exposé: The Dark Side of Whitney Wolfe Herd's Success Story

The Dark Side of Whitney Wolfe Herd: From Tinder's Rise to a Trailblazing Billionaire

Meet Whitney Wolfe Herd, the 36-year-old self-proclaimed feminist icon and co-founder of dating app Bumble. Her meteoric rise to fame has made her a darling of Hollywood, with a new movie, Swiped, about to hit theaters. But beneath the glamour and accolades lies a more complicated story of power struggles, office romances gone wrong, and allegations of racism and homophobia.

Wolfe's Instagram tagline reads "For the love of love," but according to insiders, her pursuit of romance was marked by controversy and chaos during her time at Tinder. The dating app, which Wolfe joined at just 22 years old, was a hub for young tech entrepreneurs and creatives, but it was also a hotbed of tension, power struggles, and office romances.

The Tinder Years: Romance, Rivalry, and Racism

Wolfe's relationship with Justin Mateen, her then-boyfriend and later co-founder of Tinder, has been extensively documented in the media. But sources close to the company paint a very different picture of Wolfe's time at Tinder. According to several former colleagues and friends who spoke exclusively to The Scholarly Note, Wolfe was often aggressive and confrontational towards Mateen, leaving a nasty bruise on his arm and even brandishing a knife during an argument.

But it gets worse. Insiders claim that Wolfe used racial slurs and homophobic language in the office, including calling a colleague an "anorexic b*h" and using the N-word in text messages. One former employee even recalled witnessing Wolfe grab Mateen's crotch in the office and try to seduce him.

Wolfe (top center) has a plethora of star-studded friends, including Lauren Sanchez (seen in white) who she was pictured with at her engagement party alongside Kris Jenner (bottom left), Veronica Smiley (top left), Lydia Kives (bottom right) and fashion designer Sarah Staudinger (top right)

The Lawsuit: A Trail of Texts

Wolfe's lawsuit against Tinder's then-owners IAC and Match.com, alleging sexual harassment and sexism by Mateen, has been widely reported. But what hasn't been revealed until now is the extent of Wolfe's own language use during her time at the company.

According to court documents obtained by The Scholarly Note, Wolfe used a barrage of racist and homophobic slurs in text messages to colleagues, including calling one colleague an "f*got" and referring to another as a "h*mo." These texts, which form part of a cache collected by IAC's attorneys during the lawsuit, are explosive reading.

Wolfe has long been associated with the founding team behind popular dating app Tinder, founded by Justin Mateen (left) and Sean Rad (right)

The Rise of Bumble: A New Storyline

After leaving Tinder in 2014, Wolfe went on to co-found Bumble with her friend and former colleague Sarah Mick. The app quickly gained popularity as a feminist alternative to traditional dating apps, with women taking control of the conversation and initiating matches.

But behind the scenes, sources claim that Wolfe's leadership style was authoritarian and controlling, with colleagues feeling belittled and bullied by her. And in a bizarre twist, Wolfe's own language use has been revealed to be just as problematic on Bumble, with one former employee recalling a text message in which she called a colleague a "whore."

But several of Wolfe's former colleagues said Tinder execs Rad (left), Mateen (center), and Jonathan Badeen (right) were the original three founders from the 'very beginning' and some disputed Wolfe's role in the creating the app

The Movie: A Hagiography or Something More?

Swiped, the new movie about Wolfe's life and career, premiered at the Toronto Film Festival earlier this month. The film stars Lily James as Wolfe and has been praised for its portrayal of her struggles with sexism and harassment in the tech industry.

But according to insiders, the movie is a hagiography – a sanitized and flattering portrait of Wolfe that glosses over her more problematic behavior. And when approached by The Scholarly Note, several former colleagues disputed the film's depiction of Wolfe as a champion of feminism and women's rights.

The Fallout: A Reputation in Tatters

Wolfe's reputation as a feminist trailblazer has been left in tatters after the publication of these explosive allegations. But despite her fall from grace, she remains one of the most influential women in tech – at least for now.

As for Mateen, he has declined to comment on the allegations, but sources close to the company claim that he was a victim of Wolfe's abuse and harassment during their time together.

Her former colleagues also claim Wolfe 'assaulted' her Tinder executive boyfriend Justin Mateen, allegedly leaving a bruise (pictured), but Daily mail has not seen proof Wolfe caused the injury

In the end, the story of Whitney Wolfe Herd is one of power, privilege, and the corrupting influence of ambition. As one former colleague so aptly put it: "She was just not really part of the core team at all."

British actress Lily James is set to portray Wolfe in the film. Former Tinder execs say the story portrayed on screen is 'completely false'

Actress Lily James (second in from right) posed with the cast after production wrapped for the movie in July 2024

Ryan Ogle, who served as Tinder's Chief Technology Officer and Josh Metz, who was on the marketing team, disputed Wolfe's role at Tinder

Mateen's sister Alexa Mateen (left) was among the founding members interviewed by Daily Mail who insisted Wolfe (right) was only ever a junior participant in the app's crucial plan to target college students

The garden party hosted at the Mateen family home to celebrate the launch of Tinder in 2012 that was posted to Instagram by Alexa (in white bathing suit)

Wolfe was cited in the dating app's publicity during its early days as one of the co-founders of Tinder and VP of Marketing

Alexa, (center) pictured with Rad (left) and her brother Justin (right), was also a part of the early staff team as a marketing manager

Ex-staff say Wolfe used the N-word, with one January 7, 2013, text to a colleague showing she wrote 'N**ga fa real'

In Facebook messages to a male colleague, she calls him a 'h*mo' and tells him to 'go back to the gay porno'

In another, she uses a homophobic slur, telling a colleague 'shut up f**got'

In a separate text exchange, she refers to a Match.com colleague as an 'anorexic b***h'

Wolfe says she and her now-husband, Texas oil heir Michael Herd (left), became official on Valentines Day 2014. The two married in 2017