Joshua Goldman
Joshua Goldman
min read · July 28, 2025 · Entertainment

Lily Allen Exposes Control Tactics: 'Poor Hygiene' Accusations in Abusive Relationship

Lily Allen, 40, has revealed how one 'abusive and bullying' ex would cruelly accuse her of having poor hygiene in a bit to assert his control over the singer

Lily Allen Spills the Tea on Her Toxic Ex: "He'd Accuse Me of Having Poor Hygiene Just to Assert His Control Over Me!"

Get ready for some serious tea, folks! Singer-songwriter Lily Allen is dishing out the dirt on her troubled past relationships, and this one's a doozy. In the latest episode of her podcast Miss Me?, the 40-year-old pop star revealed how one of her exes would cruelly accuse her of having poor hygiene as a way to assert his control over her.

The identity of the toxic ex remains under wraps, but trust us when we say that this revelation is giving us all the feels. According to Lily, this dude would regularly insinuate that she wasn't exactly the most well-groomed individual, all in an effort to make her feel self-conscious and powerless. And let's be real, who hasn't been there at some point?

Lily said: 'It was somebody I was in a relationship with would do it to me [accusing her of having poor hygiene] and I don't think that it was real'

"I think it was like a form of bullying and abuse," Lily said on her podcast. "It was a horrible one. As bullying forms of abuse go, it's a really horrible one." Ouch, indeed! It's clear that this experience left a lasting impact on our girl Lily.

But don't worry, she's not letting this toxic ex get the best of her. Instead, she's using her platform to speak out against abuse and raise awareness about the importance of self-acceptance. And honestly, we're so proud of her for doing just that!

Now, you might be wondering what else is going on in Lily's life. Well, let us tell you - the starlet has been busy! She recently split from Stranger Things actor David Harbour (remember when she accused him of having an affair?) and has been open about her rocky past relationships.

Lily continued: 'Yeah, it was like done on purpose to make me feel self-conscious and sh** about myself. And make them feel powerful

In fact, Lily has even spoken out about how she cheated on her ex-husband Sam Cooper with female escorts. Yep, it's been a wild ride for this songstress! But hey, at least she's owning up to her mistakes and moving forward in a positive way.

And did you know that Lily's also made her stage debut in the new play Hedda? The actress broke down in tears during the curtain call (aww, our girl's got emotional range!) and has been receiving rave reviews for her performance. Who knew she had it in her?

So, what can we take away from this scandalous tea-splashing extravaganza?

The smile hitmaker has been open about her rocky past relationships and marriages, most recently splitting from Stranger Things actor David Harbour , 50 (pictured 2020)

For starters, remember that you're never alone in your struggles - even superstars like Lily Allen have faced their share of toxic relationships and personal demons.

Secondly, don't be afraid to speak out against abuse and raise awareness for important causes. Your voice matters!

And lastly, always prioritize self-acceptance and self-love. You are enough, just the way you are - no one needs to make you feel otherwise!

Her first was builder Sam Cooper, with whom she shares daughters Ethel, 13, and Marnie, 11, revealing that she cheated on him with female escorts (pictured 2011)

Stay safe, stay strong, and remember: your story is worth telling!

For more support and resources on domestic abuse, please visit:

  • The National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247 (free and confidential)
  • Women's Aid Instant Messaging Service: chat.womensaid.org.uk (free and confidential)

On Friday, Lily broke down in tears at end of new play Hedda. which tells the tale of a woman trapped in a loveless marriage

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Lily is returning to the stage as Hedda Gabbler in a new adaptation of Henrik Ibsen's play, following the success of 2:22 A Ghost Story and The Pillowman