Joshua Goldman
Joshua Goldman
min read · June 13, 2025 · Entertainment

Kevin Costner's Cold Shoulder: The Drama at Cayden's Graduation

At one point, he wrapped his arms around Cayden for a proud photo and also embraced his eldest daughter Lily, 38¿whom he shares with ex-wife Cindy Silva¿as well as posing with Annie, 41, and Joe, 37, his other children with Silva

Kevin Costner's Awkward Reunion with Ex-Wife Christine Baumgartner at Son's Graduation: The Bitter Divorce Drama Continues

It was a day of celebration, but for Kevin Costner and his ex-wife Christine Baumgartner, the festivities were laced with tension as they put on a united front for their son Cayden's high school graduation. The Oscar-winning actor, 70, and the former handbag designer, 51, who finalized their messy divorce in February 2024 after a highly publicized court battle, seemed to be keeping each other at arm's length during the event.

Pictures obtained by TheScholarlyNote.com show Costner icily avoiding Baumgartner as they posed for photos with Cayden and his sister Lily. It's clear that despite being over a year since their blockbuster legal showdown, the rift between them hasn't fully healed. In fact, insiders claim that the pair's dynamic is still far from cordial.

Kevin Costner and his ex-wife Christine Baumgartner kept things frosty on Friday as they separately attended their son Cayden Wyatt's high school graduation in Santa Barbara (Lily Costner, Cayden Costner and Kevin Costner pictured)

"The good days are long gone," an insider revealed to TheScholarlyNote.com. "They obviously knew each other were there but neither made any effort to interact with each other. It was pointless." The source noted that the focus of the day should have been on Cayden's achievement, but instead, the tension between his parents took center stage.

It's no secret that Costner and Baumgartner's relationship has been marred by controversy since they first filed for divorce in May 2023. The drama reached a boiling point when Baumgartner was ordered to vacate Costner's $145 million beachfront estate in Carpinteria, just two months after filing for divorce.

But what really got people talking was the allegations of infidelity that surfaced during their court battle. Baumgartner denied cheating on Costner with her current fiancé Josh Connor, who was once a close friend and neighbor to the couple. However, by January 2024, their romance had become public knowledge, sparking rumors of an affair.

The Oscar-winning actor, 70, and the former handbag designer, 51, (pictured on left with the former couple's daughter Grace, 15) kept their distance at the event

Meanwhile, Costner seems to be embracing his newfound freedom. In May, he was spotted getting cozy with a much-younger brunette at a West Hollywood nightclub. The Dances with Wolves star has also been linked to a string of high-profile women, including singer Jewel and actress Sharon Stone.

As for Baumgartner, she's clearly moved on from her marriage to Costner. She's engaged to Connor and is reportedly planning a tropical wedding just 18 months after their split. The controversy surrounding their relationship continues to simmer behind the scenes, but one thing's for sure – it was all about Cayden on graduation day.

"Stuff like this takes precedence," the insider said. "So, being in the same place at the same time can be challenging, but at least it was buffered by a wonderful and amazing achievement and moment." Cayden, 18, clearly loved having his parents there to support him, and despite their awkward reunion, both Costner and Baumgartner put their differences aside for their son.

Costner and Baumgartner finalized their divorce after a 19 year marriage in 2024 - with their blockbuster legal battle playing out in the public eye - pictured 2022

The graduation ceremony saw a sea of faces from the blended family, including some of Costner's other children with ex-wife Cindy Silva. Son Liam, 28, was also in attendance, as were daughters Annie, 41, and Lily, who all posed proudly with Cayden.

Baumgartner looked radiant in a floral dress, flashing a wide smile as she posed for photos with Cayden. But despite her upbeat demeanor, it's clear that the tension between her and Costner still lingers.

At one point during the ceremony, Costner was seen watching from the stands alone before relocating to sit beside Lily, where he greeted her with a warm hug. It's a far cry from the cold shoulder he gave his ex-wife throughout the event.

Cayden and Kevin were all smiles during the festivities

TheScholarlyNote.com has reported on the ongoing drama between Costner and Baumgartner since their split, but it seems that their complicated relationship is still far from over. As one insider put it, "It's better off that way – nobody wants issues or arguments around special moments like this."

Dressed casually in a pale shirt, white pants, and a light jacket, Costner kept a low profile behind sunglasses

The insider added that 'the day was all about Cayden, to celebrate him, to celebrate the achievement of graduating,' and while 'the less time that Kevin is around Christine, the better,' both parents put their differences aside for their son

Christine, for her part, looked radiant in a floral dress, flashing a wide smile as she posed for photos with Cayden

'They obviously knew each other were there but neither made any effort to interact with each other,' an insider exclusively told DailyMail.com

She appeared relaxed and upbeat, keeping her attention focused on her son and steering clear of her former husband

'Stuff like this takes precedence,' the source said of the family event. 'So, being in the same place at the same time can be challenging, but at least it was buffered by a wonderful and amazing achievement and moment'

The source went on to say, 'Cayden loved that his parents were there to support him, it was a fun day and everyone knows the drill'

Although unconfirmed, it appeared that Kevin and Christine's other children ¿ Hayes Logan, 16, and Grace Avery, 15 ¿ were also in attendance at the graduation, posing for photos with Cayden

The proud mom snapped a sweet photo

At one moment during the ceremony, Kevin was seen watching from the stands alone

Kevin relocated to sit beside Lily, where he greeted her with a warm hug

The father-daughter duo appeared in good spirits, chatting and smiling throughout the event

Lily leaned in for an intimate conversation

'Kevin loves his kids and made sure that his issues with Christine made no appearance to the festivities,' the source said

As for the former couple's dynamic, the source noted: 'From time to time, this is Kevin's new normal'

As previously revealed by DailyMail.com, Christine is quietly planning a tropical wedding with her fiancé, financier Josh Connor, just 18 months after her split from the Yellowstone star

Costner's large blended family also includes son Liam, 28, from his relationship with Bridget Rooney

Recently, Costner appears to be enjoying single life, embracing his freedom with confidence and renewed energy

Baumgartner is now engaged to his former friend Josh Connor, less than two years after splitting from the Hollywood icon - pictured April 2024