Joshua Goldman
Joshua Goldman
min read · July 14, 2025 · Entertainment

A Decade Later: Jeremy Renner Reflects on His Controversial Divorce

It's been a decade since Jeremy Renner finalized his humiliating divorce and bitter custody battle with ex-wife Sonni Pacheco during which she accused him of being an 'unfit parent' with a substance abuse problem and alleged he threatened to kill her (pictured in 2016)

EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW

Jeremy Renner Opens Up About His Shocking Divorce and Custody Battle: "It Was a Salacious Mess!"

Ten years have passed since Jeremy Renner finalized his tumultuous divorce from Sonni Pacheco, but the scars from their bitter custody battle still linger. The Academy Award-nominated actor is speaking out for the first time about the shocking allegations that left him reeling and his reputation in tatters.

In old legal docs, the 37-year-old realtor-sculpture artist alleged there were lines of cocaine on a bathroom counter within reach of their then six-year-old daughter Ava and the 54-year-old action star would leave her unsupervised for hours while engaging in threesomes or passed out drunk

In a candid interview with TheScholarlyNote.com, Renner, 37, reveals the devastating toll the drama took on his life and how he's emerged stronger and wiser from the experience. "It was a salacious mess," he admits. "Being accused of things you've not done? That doesn't feel good to anybody."

The drama began when Pacheco, a realtor and sculpture artist, filed for divorce in 2012, claiming Renner was an "unfit parent" with a substance abuse problem and alleging that he threatened to kill her. The court papers also accused Renner of leaving their then-six-year-old daughter Ava unsupervised for hours while engaging in threesomes or passed out drunk.

Pacheco further alleged that Renner once put a gun in his mouth, threatening to take his own life, before firing the weapon into the ceiling with Ava asleep just down the hall. The allegations were so shocking that they left Hollywood stunned and wondering how such a charmed superstar like Renner could be accused of such heinous behavior.

Sonni alleged that Jeremy once bit their child's shoulder and claimed their nanny overheard him threatening to kill herself and then himself because 'it was better that Ava had no parents than to have [Sonni] as a mother' (pictured in 2016)

But Renner insists it was all a lie. "Those allegations were false," he stresses. "I lived a carnival-type life at the time, hosting parties and whatnot. But I wasn't engaging in any of those things that Sonni claimed. It was all clickbait and salaciousness."

The actor also addresses the infamous mark on Ava's shoulder, which Pacheco alleged was from Renner biting her. "It was actually a car seat belt," he explains. "Ava was riding in the backseat, and the belt pinched her. That's it."

Renner reveals that the experience left him feeling vulnerable and exposed. "I just wanted to slow down," he says. "I got tired of hosting parties and dealing with all the drama that came with it. COVID-19 came along, and I used that as an excuse to take a step back and reevaluate my life."

Renner told The Guardian last Saturday: 'Being accused of things you've not done, right? That doesn't feel good to anybody. It certainly doesn't feel good when you're a celebrity and it's known to everybody' (pictured December 10)

The actor's relationship with Pacheco has surprisingly improved over time. The former couple shares joint custody of Ava, and Renner says they've developed a positive co-parenting dynamic. "We get along really well now," he reveals. "Ava's mom and I are in each other's lives, and it's lovely."

Renner is currently single but has been linked to actresses Eiza González and hairstylist Amber Monson. When asked if he's concerned about Pacheco gaining sole custody of Ava, the action star scoffs. "That's just lawyers talking," he says. "We have a joint custody arrangement that works for both of us."

The actor is focusing on his personal life, including his 12-year-old daughter and his foster kid charity, RennerVation Foundation. He's also busy with his latest projects, including the fourth season of Paramount+'s Mayor of Kingstown and the upcoming Netflix film Wake Up Dead Man, which co-stars Daniel Craig, Josh O'Connor, Glenn Close, and Mila Kunis.

The two-time Oscar nominee added: 'No, [they weren't true] and they happen all the time. It's all the salaciousness that happens out there. It's clickbait, and it hurts my feelings and it dehumanizes people'

Renner's journey from darkness to light is a testament to his resilience and strength. As he navigates the ups and downs of Hollywood, the actor remains committed to being the best father possible and spreading love and positivity wherever he goes.

Jeremy clarified that the mark on Ava's shoulder was from a car seat belt that had 'pinched' her and, as for the womanizing and drug allegations, he lived 'a carnival-type life' at the time (pictured April 29)

Renner explained: 'Yeah, yeah. Hosting. I just got tired of hosting. And all the clean-up. Hehehe! So by 2019 I was tired of all that. [COVID-19] came around and helped me bounce that all out. I just wanted to slow down' (pictured May 31)

The My Next Breath author shocking revealed: '[Ava's] mom and I get along very well, and we're in each other's lives. It's lovely. It's great. She's got a new baby and she sends me beautiful pictures' (pictured April 29)

Jeremy - who's been romantically linked to actress Eiza González and hairstylist Amber Monson - is currently single and 'pretty focused' on his now 12-year-old daughter and his foster kid charity, RennerVation Foundation

Since January 21, Renner has been hard at work executive producing and reprising his role as Mike McLusky on the fourth season of Paramount+ crime thriller Mayor of Kingstown

Tthe SAG Award winner also has a mystery role in Rian Johnson's Glass Onion sequel Wake Up Dead Man - premiering December 12 on Netflix - alongside Daniel Craig (R) and Josh O'Connor (L)