Joshua Goldman
Joshua Goldman
min read · October 14, 2025 · Entertainment

16 Years and Counting: Dan and Phil Confirm Their Secret Romance

After nearly 16 years of Internet speculation over romance rumors, British YouTubers Dan Howell (L) and Phil Lester (R) finally confirmed their secret love for each other on their channel Monday

SCOOP: British YouTubers Dan Howell and Phil Lester Spill the Tea on Their Secret Romance After 16 Years of Speculation

In a shocking revelation, beloved British YouTubers Dan Howell and Phil Lester have finally confirmed their long-rumored romance after nearly 16 years of Internet speculation. The couple, who rose to fame with their hilarious comedy sketches and witty banter, made the announcement on their channel Monday, sending shockwaves throughout the online community.

"We fell into it hard and fast in 2009," Dan confessed, revealing that their whirlwind romance was so intense they never bothered to label it. "We just ended up living together and here we are!" Phil chimed in, adding, "We're partners in everything... and no, it's not always perfect." The blunt warning was clearly aimed at fans who might expect a fairy-tale romance from the couple.

'We fell into it hard and fast in 2009,' Dan announced. 'It was so fast that we never labeled it. We just ended up living together and here we are!'

For Dan, who is now in his mid-30s, coming out as gay was a gradual process. He revealed that he was so deeply closeted during their early days together that he felt compelled to hide their relationship even from friends and family. "A big reason why I've been like I never want to talk about this is because I wouldn't handle people's reactions," Dan admitted, hinting at the trauma he experienced in his younger years.

Phil, on the other hand, seemed more at ease with his own journey of self-discovery. However, he acknowledged that being part of a high-profile same-sex relationship comes with its fair share of challenges. "I knew this was all very sensitive, uncomfortable and scary for you," Phil said, addressing Dan directly. "So I kind of just wanted to give you time to figure out what you wanted to do."

The couple's decision to keep their romance under wraps wasn't taken lightly. They explained that they prioritized their professional image as a comedy duo over being seen as a gay couple. "It hits different," Dan noted, hinting at the stigma still associated with same-sex relationships in the entertainment industry. Phil agreed, adding, "Being funny and entertaining is what we're known for... Let's be honest, there's a lot of homophobia out there."

In his mid-20s, Howell admitted he was so 'deep in the closet' that he 'felt we had to hide the relationship because I was still hiding who I was to my friends, family, myself'

Their concerns about being typecast as the 'cute gay couple' were valid. Dan pointed out that some straight viewers might have been put off by their relationship, fearing it would compromise their ability to connect with them on a personal level. "There's a lot of straight guys who would simply never watch us on YouTube because it made them uncomfortable," Dan stated bluntly.

Phil also touched on the elephant in the room – couple vlogging. He expressed his desire to avoid the pitfalls of creating a perfect, Instagrammable relationship that can be scrutinized and criticized when reality sets in. "You're sharing your life... And then when your relationship inevitably goes wrong, not only do you have a personal problem, but you've destroyed your entire professional life because congratulations everybody got invested in the storyline of your relationship," Dan quipped.

The couple's candid conversation serves as a stark reminder that even high-profile celebrities like themselves can struggle with identity and self-acceptance. They also acknowledged the irony of being part of the online community while maintaining a private relationship for so long.

Meanwhile, Lester 'felt like I'd gone back in a mini closet in a way, which was weird' saying: 'I kind of just wanted to give you time to figure out what you wanted to do'

In related news, fans can look forward to more content from the duo in the form of their upcoming podcast. "15 years of suppressing all these stories and opinions... they're finally gonna come out," Phil joked, hinting at the juicy tea that's about to be spilled.

The British YouTube sensations have built a massive following across multiple channels, with millions of subscribers hanging on to their every word. Their impressive resume includes hosting BBC Radio 1 shows, headlining three joint tours, and even publishing two bestselling books. As they continue to share their lives with the world, fans can expect an intimate look at their relationship – for better or for worse.

The inseparable roommates eventually came out as gay and queer, respectively, two weeks apart in June 2019 but 34-year-old Dan stipulated at the time: 'Am I totally gay? No'

Another reason Dan and Phil kept quiet about their private bond was they preferred being professionally known as a comedy duo than gay boyfriends: 'Being funny, entertaining. Let's be honest, there's a lot of homophobia out there'

The former supermarket staffer and the former dog walker have amassed millions of subscribers across multiple channels, hosted BBC Radio 1 shows, hosted Brit Awards livestreams, published two bestselling books, and headlined three joint tours (pictured in 2016)